Both “You and I” and “You and Me” are grammatically correct, although there are people overusing either of these formulas. You can differentiate them by replacing it with “we” and “us.”
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“You and I” or “You and Me”?
Both children and second-language learners improve their English by listening to music. The lyrics of pop songs represent casual everyday speech and may therefore reflect new linguistic tendencies within the language. Let’s see how this grammatical question (the distinction of you and I vs. you and me) is treated in modern pop songs.
By the way, it’s never
I and you or me and you, as this is widely considered to be impolite. Always try to name yourself last.
Traditional Distinction Between “You and I” vs. “You and Me”
In order to see what’s changed, we have to understand the traditional way of differentiating these two phrase according to the grammar books. One thing is certain: You and I is not the same thing as you and me (similar case as who and whom).
You and I like our new neighbors.
Our new neighbors like you and me.
The convention says that you and I serves as a subject, and functions much like the pronoun we. On the other hand, you come across the phrase you and me as an object, just like the pronoun us. Usually, the English language requires the subject-verb-object construction. That’s why you’ll most likely find you and I at the beginning of the sentence, and you and me towards the end.
They’re not interchangeable:
You and me like our new neighbors.
Our new neighbors like
you and I.
Grammatically speaking, this would be the same as to say:
Her likes our new neighbors. (Instead of she)
Our new neighbors like he. (Instead of him)
|Subject Pronoun||Object Pronoun|
|Pronouns that Change||I, he, she, we, they||Me, him, her, us, them|
|Pronouns that Don’t Change||you (singular & plural), it||you (singular & plural), it|
You can adapt all rules and recommendations for you and I / you and me for different constructions of different persons:
- She and I versus me and her
- He and I versus me and him
- They and I versus me and them
Your father and I go shopping.
You can come to me and my wife.
The Simple Way: Only Using “You and Me”
Recently, English speakers have tended to disregard the differentiation, and use you and me in all cases. So, they would say:
You and me saw a strange man today.
We were horrified. I even ran away.
Please note that the usage of the pronouns you, I, and me on their own is unchanged. Only the joint phrase you and me steps out of line.
💿 “You & Me”—which is also the artist’s name 💿
... You and me were always with each other
You and me, we belong together...
Too Correct to Be True: Only Using “You and I”
Since not adhering to the traditional distinction has been a tendency for a while already, there is a counter-tendency of people who want to sound more educated or intelligent. They consider the form you and I to be the only correct one and use it more and more often. This resulted in an inflationary usage of the phrase (called hypercorrection) and in the reduced usage of its counterpart:
Our boss should have spoken to you and I.
This tendency can also be observed in music. The following chorus lines normally would say you and me.
💿 “Yoü & I” by Lady Gaga 💿
... (Something), something, something about my cool Nebraska guy
Yeah something about baby you and I ...
Unfortunately, you and me wouldn’t rhyme with guy.
💿 “You & I” by One Direction 💿
...Not even the Gods above
Can separate the two of us
No, nothing can come between you and I ...
More Emphasis on “You and I” vs. “You and Me”
One last remark on the distinction between “I” and me: Sometimes, the reflexive pronoun myself can be found in the subject position—depending on the language style. However, using myself instead of “I” is grammatically incorrect.
You and myself like our new neighbors.
Using myself instead of me isn’t grammatically correct, either. Some people, however, tend to disregard this rule:
They sent that e-mail to
you and myself.
The final example makes a threefold distinction. Obviously, the line is an allusion to not being lonely, although being alone.
💿 “Me, Myself & I” by G-Eazy and Bebe Rexha 💿
...[Woooh], it’s just me, myself, and I
Solo ride until I die...
LanguageTool strongly promotes the grammatical distinction between you and I vs. you and me. However, when using the writing assistant, it’ll only remind you of the traditional convention. You certainly always have the choice to stick to the modern tendency of generalizing you and me. Or, you can prefer to stick to the posh trend to only use you and I. The future will show how long this grammatical distinction will be able to last, but that’s just between you and us—or you and we, respectively.